Self-awareness is vital for today’s Leader. In fact, self-awareness is a component of emotional intelligence and it has been shown as an important dimension of successful business leaders. In a recent study, Green Peak Partners and Cornell University examined 72 executives at public and private companies with revenues from $50 million to $5 billion, and found that “a high self-awareness score was the strongest predictor of overall success”.
There are many benefits to receiving feedback about how others perceive us. It may:
[ ] Teach us more about how others see us across various relationships
[ ] Illuminate several blind spots we’ve yet to see, or confirm what we already know about ourselves
[ ] Highlight a talent we tend to display, but have yet to “own”
[ ] Restore our confidence in the value we bring to others
Leadership is about influence, so knowing thyself & how we are perceived by others can mean the difference between influencing others or not! In my opinion, one of the best ways to become more knowledgeable of how you’re seen by others is by seeking feedback. The best way to seek feedback is to simply ask!
I decided to learn more about how others currently perceive me, here’s how I did it. I texted people I trust and have known for many years because there were more opportunities to experience me over time. At the same time, there are fewer instances of those in this group only noticing ’thin slices’ of my behavior. I kept my request simple because these are people I know and trust.
Here’s the request I sent to each of them:
“Hello ______! Quick question for you: What 5 words spring to mind when you think about working or interacting with me and the type of person I am?”
As I received feedback, I went to a free online Wordcloud generator and added the words, because I wanted a visual reminder of this feedback. I also followed up with each respondent and provided them with a copy of my Wordcloud as a ‘Thank You’ for taking the time to help me.
Note: Some of the nouns and/or adjectives others choose to describe me were not be what I would have chosen, but I went with the exact words I was provided. Remember – it’s important to honor those who’ve taken time to provide you with feedback, so be aware that changing the actual words received as feedback to suit a word you might instead use, will change the respondent’s original intent!
The results I received appear as a Wordcloud below. The larger the word, the more times it was repeated. As you can see – the word “Passionate” was repeated most often followed by Intelligent, Energetic, etc.
So, which specific words are others using to describe working or interacting with YOU?
Which specific words are others using to describe the type of person they perceive YOU to be?
Keep this in mind: others are already asking & have already asked about your mode of interaction! Do you know the answers being provided on your behalf?
Your mission, should you choose to accept it – is to become more self-aware and learn how others perceive you!
I trust this process will serve you!
Please leave your questions and comments below.